• Vivian DeLima

Becoming a Parent Using Donor Eggs


By Vivian DeLima

Donor Coordinator


When we think of egg donation, we often think of a young, fertile woman donating her eggs to another woman who is struggling with infertility. Using an egg donor isn’t just an excellent option for women who are experiencing the challenges of infertility. It is also a great way for same-sex male couples to grow their families!


In the past, same-sex male couples only had adoption available as a way to have children. Although adoption is still a common choice when a gay couple is starting their family, using an egg donor gives them the opportunity to have genetic ties with their children. With the help of a gestational carrier, same-sex male couples can use donor eggs along with their own sperm to have a child that is genetically related to themselves.


Often, gay couples use the same egg donor, but use the sperm from one father for one child and the sperm of the other father for a second child. This allows each father to have a genetic relation to some of the children, while still allowing all of the children to be genetically related to each other. It is also an option, of course, for one of the fathers to be the only sperm provider.


So now you may be asking yourself, “How do we find the perfect egg donor?” The process for same-sex male couples to choose an egg donor, is the same for women and heterosexual couples.


No matter what, it is important for the couple to choose important characteristics they are looking for in a donor, their overall budget for the entire process, and selecting which type of donation option is best for them. All of this information is explained in our previous blog post about how to choose the best egg donor for your family.


In the world of fertility, it can seem so difficult to find an agency and clinic that truly has your best interest at heart and who will fight for what you want every step of the way, especially when you’re having to work with multiple agencies at once!


At Fertility Lane, we strive to make every experience and journey a happy one. With our in-house egg bank and donor agency, we now have the ability of providing our same-sex male couples with a high-quality donor, as well as providing care to themselves and their gestational surrogate throughout the entire process.


We are excited to serve the LGBTQ+ community in this way. Helping all types of families achieve their dream of having children is the main goal at Fertility Lane, and we hope to be able to connect with even more same-sex male couples through our new egg donation program.


For more information on becoming a parent using an egg donor, please feel free to email me, Vivian DeLima, at vfanderson@lanefertility.com.